Tuesday, June 30, 2009

How Much are You Worth

How much are you worth?
We live in a culture where the terms net worth and self worth have become synonymous. Yet they have entirely different meanings. I have always been interested in examining language and words for their hidden meanings. Often if we look closely enough, a far greater truth lies within words than we had imagined. For example, if we separate and dissect the words net and worth, an entirely different picture comes into view.
According to Webster’s collegiate dictionary, the two most common definitions of the words net are: anything that catches or traps; ensnares or 2: a net amount, profit, price or a result; after all considerations, or final.
The word “Worth” means Monetary or the value of something measured by its qualities or by the esteem in which it is held.
Finally the word “Self” means ones own person as distinct from others.
Upon considering these words, we discover that most of us have been “Trapped” and ‘Measured” by money, leaving the self rather alone and unaccounted for.
Since we often do not feel good about our Net Worth, Our Self-worth has devalued and our self esteem deflated.
This has recently been evident in our culture that has too often been exposed to publications such as the Forbes Magazines rich list. When we see the likes of Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Tiger woods, Oprah or Jay-Z and how much they are worth, we fall into self pitty when we compare how much they net, as compared to how much we make in a fiscal year. This is purely because we have not properly appreciated ourselves for being intrinsically valuable in our uniqueness, Separate from our Net-worth.
When it comes to Net-worth, most of us feel that we never quite measure up. Thinking about how much we have accumulated as proof of our value and this is a painful experience.
In our culture our wealth is the ultimate measure of who we are. We have unfortunately become defined by it. Those who have little Net worth feel a corresponding lack of self worth. But guess what? they are not alone. Many people who have a high Net worth also experience similar feelings of low self esteems. The difference is that, although they have plenty of money, they often do not feel worth of it. They appear to have everything and yet nothing..An example of such is the Late Michael Jackson, Marylin Munroe, Mike Tyson and so many more. On his College Drop out Album, Kanye west best defined this problem on a song titled ‘when it all falls down’.. He said, “it seems we leaving the American Dream, where people highest up have the lowest self-esteems, the prettiest people do the ugliest things. On the road to riches and diamond rings”
I believe this lack of self esteem is caused by a profound Spiritual bankruptcy that is so prevalent in our culture.

Having lived a life in the persuit of money and material gain, we often Neglect the ‘Self’ and its inherent longing for ‘Spiritual Connection’. As human beings, we alone have this need. I do not believe this need is simply evolution at work. Rather it is intended that we value and nurture this dimension of our self above and beyond all else.
Without this connection to the self, our true worth is diminished, and life becomes an endless search for substitutes to fill the void. Examples of such idols are Money, Education for Status, Cars, Clothes, Jewelry and all the things money can buy.
Not to say that they are bad, but when we are defined by these items we become ensnared in the net, caught in the money trap.
I cannot, but believe that we will not escape until we begin to value ourselves above money and material gain. Eisenhower once said, “Money cannot buy you happiness, but a pleasant form of misery”.
We need to create a new paradigm of living. One that we have inherited for generations out of the habbit and lack of consciousness.
More money may not be the right answer. But because we have been burdened by the thoughts of the lack and limitations, we have not been taught to think beyond our historic point of view. Yet we are so much the sum total of our experiences. There is a truth in each of us that is deeper than any biography our lives could ever tell.
Yes we are greatly influenced by our backgrounds and experiences. But defining ourselves merely by those is much too limiting.
Our Money is not our lives, no wonder we suffer from such low esteems. Once we paste this on our minds, we start to live. A famous saying states that we make a living by what we get, but make a life by we give. Once you embark on living by such a philosophy, we find fulfillment, purpose and joy in what we give others through our talents, humour, personality knowledge and wisdom.
I don’t believe any amount of money can bring you the kind of Joy in life, when you know that you are nourishing, uplifting, blessing, teaching, serving and saving peoples lives with your unique God given abilities.
That is the true value of oneself in life. Your self worth is attained when you are not just a mere friend or spouce, but a valuable person to others.

My friend Willy once jokingly said to me, “Chim money is not the only thing in life, it is everything”. I hope people do not live their lives by such philosophies, because they are detrimental to human relations.
I say so because we are born with practically nothing material. Just little naked babies covered in blood and when we die, we go out the same way with practically nothing material. Yet most of us live most of our lives in the persuit of money and status. My friend Mate once asked me this in a conversation I had with her, “Chim, have you ever heard of a wealthy person ask for a bank book on their death bed?” I laughed at that observation coz its true. But as funny as I found that question and after observing these analogies, don’t you think life is much more than being paper chasers? Who’ve become economic salves on the work treadmill, running an exercise in futility, where some get lucky and get rich, while others just keep working till they retire with clenched fists worried about depleting pensions.
The agony that befalls both instances is when the question comes to mind about what next to do in life after making or getting this money. These folks live by the wise 50 cent philosophy of “get rich or die trying”. I think its foolish.LOL
I Have seen relationships and marriages fall apart due to this greed in the fear of social status, lack and limitations in the persuit of money. So why do you want to be another statistic of the Net-worth culture, when you can be a happy self-worth Victor?
True self worth begins when you become conscious about what matters most in life and you become an Investor in God, yourself and others (family and friends).
Invest your time in learning from lessons in life, Gods word and from listening and sharing what you have with others. I guarantee you happiness that money can never buy, if you do this.
The Unhappiest people in the world are those who wonder how the world is going to make them happy. The Golden rule is putting yourself in someone else place rather than putting them in their place. Therefore whatever you want others to do unto you, do so for them Matthew 7:12.
The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated. So you cannot underestimate the value of a single person, so do not take advantage of people for they are Gods most loved creation.
He created this world and all the Great things that exist, like the Sun, Vegetation and animals etc..All of these wonders where created to accommodate mans comfort. He even sent his only begotten son Jesus to die for your salvation. John 3:16
that’s how valuable you are. No amount of money can buy your worth lest you don’t realize how great you are. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that you aren’t worth Jack, coz you are worth more than the world, everything in it and even more.
Peace and love My Great Wealthy friends.

P.s Next time I see a Forbes Publication on the worlds rich list on Self-Worth, i hope to see your name blinging on the Top, coz that’s your spot.
HOLLA!

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

bird-man

I have been privileged with an opportunity in my life to see,meet and make friends and accquaintances with hundreds,thousandsands and probably millions of people. One thing that is distinct about the people i have met in life is their distinct character. This has probably been the attractive force behind the binding close tied relationships with the mates i have made,over the last couple of years of my life.Truely people and friends are a blessing. but i couldnt help but notice a close similarity between human beings and birds, when it comes to behaviour. despite man being bestowed with the authority over Gods creation,i.e.birds. mankind over the ages of civilisation has oftenly behaved like birds. some people may find this statement offensive. but am merely using a metaphor to allude to a point of which i will expound on later. According to cognitive linguistics,my knowledge of a metaphor is a mapping structure of a source model onto a target model.ofwhich my subject aims at the birds being the source and mand being the target of my behavioural findings. The following are a list of birds in my observation, in comparison tho human beings. peacocks, flamingos, owls, vultures, chickens, robins and finally eagles.

A PREVIEW ON THE ABOVE MENTIONEED BIRDS

The Peacock: It is probably one of the most beautiful birds in the bird kingdom. Their flamboyant array of colorful feathers makes them so attractive to the eye. They are very expensive and often bought by the wealthy to beautify their rosy gardens.

Flamingos: They are tall slim birds that often live near river banks and beaches. They spend most of their days basking in the sun and famously known for bending over for long periods searching for worms and fish.
Owls: They are one of the few Nocturnal birds that sleep throughout the day, but are up and busy throughout the night. They are famously known foe their huge yellow eyes and flexible necks that can almost make a 180 degree turn to the back.
Vultures: They are a rare breed of flesh eating birds that are found in the Deserts and isolated grass lands. They are famously known for waiting for hours on end preying on vulnerable ailing animals that are about to die.

Chickens: They are famously known as mans favorite delicacy. Often domesticated by man, these birds are also famously known for being cowardice. They spend most of their days eating and looking for food.

Robins: They are one of the most common birds in the bird kingdom on earth.. They are famously known for their chirping and are called the singing birds. These melodious chirps are usually and indicator of the break of day. They often live near man and are known to build their nests on roof and tree tops.

Eagles: They are one of the biggest birds in the bird kingdom. They are famously known to fly at very high altitudes and sow through the sky without flapping their wings for long periods. A distinct feature of the eagle is its very powerful eyes that can spot prey on the ground form thousand of kilometers in the sky.

After observing the distinct features of the aforementioned birds, one would ask how I came up with the similarity in behavior with man. O well, this is how!!!Humans, despite being so intelligent, have developed detrimental behaviors which are unfortunately making them fail to fly high in life. This has been a hindrance to man attaining his full potential and leaving a fully filling life.

BELOW ARE A FEW EXAMPLES OF THE BIRD LIKE PEOPLE

PEACOCK PEOPLE: These are a certain type of people that have been blessed with good looks. Much like the feathers of a peacock, these people have devoted most of their lives to flamboyant extravagant dressing. They are known to make fashion statements with their designer fads. They have gotten so consumed with their looks, or how they look, that they walk pompously with pride, brandishing their apparel to other usually for envy. They are known to spend colossal amounts of money on procuring garments and cosmetics and are thought to even starve just so that they can look good.
In a famous Hip-hop brand called Roca wear. Their slogan best entails the character of these individuals. It states, “You are what you wear.” These clothes more than usually define who they are. Psychologists most commonly call these kinds of people Narcissists. This denotes ‘selfish’ or rather self Indulgent people. Narcissism means the love of ones self and refers to the set of character traits concerned with self admiration, self centeredness or self regard. This name was chosen by Sigmund Freud, from the Greek myth of Narcissus, who was doomed to fall in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. The danger of these traits has made me theorize this: have you ever wondered why despite the Peacock being a bird, it cannot fly? I think it’s because it’s to fly to fly. Lol . Much like the Narcissit Peacock people who usually cannot develop positively through life, simply because they are too fly too fly.

FLAMINGO PEOLE: They are a certain type of people that choose to love to have few clothes on. Just like the flamingo whose feathers make them look skimpy. They too, spend most of their days on beaches and river banks topless and skimpily dressed. They do a lot of show off running around and a lot of bending over to attract attention.

OWL PEOPLE: The owl types of people spend most of their days sleeping or inactively idle, but suddenly get busy and active during the night. Some examples of such people are Night robbers, and Prostitutes and Club hoppers. Much like the Owls flexible necks, these people always have their heads over their shoulders in Paranoia. Looking out for the unknown force that they preciev out their that’s out to get them. They are many times fearful and extra cautious with their movements and actions due to the absence of light. This has made them slick and tricky individuals that move around unnoticed during the day.

VULTURE PEOPLE: These types of people are very canning characters. Like the Vulture they prey on weak vulnerable people that are usually going through grief, turmoil and ailing. Such victims include orphans, widows and the terminally ill. Examples of these vulture culprits of these are thieves, crooks and property grabbers, just to mention but a few. They falsely befriend these vulnerable people with a facade of good intent. Once the victims are tricked, or convincingly get to trust these individuals, they go in for the kill and get what their deceptive eyes had their eyes on.

CHICKEN PEOPLE: Are a type of people that spend most of their days eating and looking for food.. They are weak minded cowardice self centered individuals. When hungry they will run towards that feed them. But when they are bloated and full, their memory quickly lapse and they run away from the very hand that fed them. They have a very basic life that includes eating drinking defecating and sleeping. In the past decade, the h-hop world coined a derogatory word for easy going senseless gold-digging club hoppers. The call them ‘Chicken Heads’. In his most recent rap album titled Untiled, Rapper Nas has a song called fried chicken. It talks about a certain type of Chicken head-woman who is metaphorically portrayed as a fried Chicken. Here are a few quotable’s from the song. “Fried chicken, fly Vixen, you give me heart disease but I need you in kitchen”, he also says “I don’t know what I like best, your legs or your breast, Mrs. fried chicken, you’re gonna be a niggers death” he ends by saying “its funny how what am eating is killing me, but I keep doing it, why? Coz that’s what niggers do” .I believe the word Nigger in this song refers to ignorant people with blinds on their eyes, and not the racial undertone it’s infamous for.

ROBIN PEOPLE: Basically these are a type of people that make the most noise. They seem to always be in a rush and busy, with very little to show for their tireless pursuits. They walk through life in high pursuit and are known to irritate people with their whining and nagging form the time they wake in the morning and through out the day. Examples of such people are Economic slaves, running on treadmill of life. Their work places are like a slave plantation.

EAGLE PEOPLE: They are unlike any the majority of the bird people that fly low in life. Meaning they stand out from the large number of people, due to their ability to fly at the highest altitude. Because of its great quality, it is evident that these kinds of people have very good attitudes. They are like the one in a million people that understand the secret to good living. They are special because they are the wisest in life’s flight.
A common saying of the eagle states that when it rains, all birds run or fly for cover, but its only the eagle alone that fly’s above the clouds.
This means that problems are upon us all in life, but it’s the wise that can be above the problem with lasting solutions. Hence when faced with numerous challenges in life, its simply our attitudes that determine our latitude.
Despite our different characteristics in life, we should all aspire to be like the high flying good sighted Eagle when it comes to our attitudes with life’s challenges.
But then again it’s always good to come down to earth regularly by humbling ourselves. Which very few Eagle people do. Their inability to come down to earth makes them full fledged Eagles and it makes them Develop Egos. They then become Egotistical people that feel too superior and smarter than the low flying birds. Examples of such are People with Superiority complexes blessed with titles in society. They unfortunately use the titles to define who they are.
Only until they are humble is when they become the true Noble Eagle, such as the one on our flag that symbolizes our ability to overcome.

THE PURPOSE(punch line)
My purpose of my using negative undertones to denote bird people’s behavior is mainly to enlighten and awaken people, in a quest to ask them of who they are?
This is in regard to the behavioral trends we’ve subconsciously adapted through the years that define who we are today. As you read this essay, I would like you to seat back for a while and reflect on the character your have. Now honestly ask yourself who you are?
If you aren’t happy with yourself, don’t despair. It might be a hard to face the person you see in the mirror according to the kind of bird person you are. My analogies are meant to help you have an honest view of your character in the light of helping you better yourself into becoming a high flyer in life with a defined purpose to humanity.
A common idiom states that Birds of the same feather flock together. We as human beings should pick our friends and partners on the same level of flight with us. As the famous rapper Nas says”you are who you associate yourself with. Look around at the five closest friends of yours. That is who you are. If you do not want to be that person, you know what to do”
Eagles surely do not hangout or fly with chickens. Neither do owls nor Vultures. Why? because they are all on different levels of flight in altitude in life. But if you caged them all together, they could co-exist with each other. With a few exceptions of the chicken’s content with the situation, unfortunately the eagle would feel deprived of flying. This is like a person in a relationship that feels tied down by a suppressive partner. They feel discontent with their bond, because one partner can’t let them fly to reach their full potential in life.
The same may apply to some friends that add no value to our lives and prevent us from developing.
We should all strive to become like the Noble Eagle and make quality relationships in life with fellow Eagles.

ON THE BRIGHTER SIDE

It surely would be insulting to Gods wonderful creation if I left the metaphoric undertone on his beautiful birds. Like all creatures they too, like man have a great purpose to humanity and the eco-system. Listed below are a few examples.
Birds like Chickens are very good meat for man, they provide us with eggs that have valuable protein necessary for our health. Without Chicken eggs man would have a hard time baking.
From the unique design of birds like the flamingo, man has immolated Gods design of these birds and created Marvels of Aviation for Domestic, International and Space travel.
Birds like the Robin are very essential in seed dispersal and pollination of plants.
Their chirping is usually deemed as irritating, when in actuality it is an alarm to wake man up at the break of day. It is a music that we should all get to love and consider a blessing. Because just imagine we woke up one day and heard no birds chirping? That I believe would be a signal to tell us that something has gone wrong in the Eco system, like a biological Bomb..LOL
Some Birds are an indication of the change in season and can be a vital sign to farmers to start planting crops.
Some Migrant birds are an indication in the change of season. This could be Important for farmers to start reaping their crop.
Some birds like the Terns are a fisherman’s best friend. They usually loom over huge schools of fish. This is often an indicator to man for them to know where to cast their nets to fish. When lost at sea, these very birds can act as a navigator to ship wrecked sailors to where the nearest land is.
Birds like Hawks and Eagles can also be body guards of man in grasslands against dangerous snakes. These birds loom over footpaths that man uses in search of snakes and hunt and kill whatever snakes travel through these paths. They actually reduce and control the Snake population. Some smaller birds eat Mosquitoes cockroaches and insects that are infamous for spreading deadly diseases to man.

CONCLUSION

In this vain, its clear to see that birds are mans best friend regardless of their flaws. Man is also a flawed being, so it’s important for man to focus on the blessings birds are to humanity rather than their seemingly menial drawl backs. In the same vain man should look at all people in life as flawed but special. No matter what weaknesses our friends may have, let’s try to focus on their strengths and help lower flying improve their character by motivating, loving, Nurturing and encouraging them to better themselves. For the Bible says we are all cheerfully and wonderfully made by God. Psalms 123.
May whosoever read this remember that Jesus was the highest flyer of all time in life.
We are taught as Christians to aspire to be like him and fly like he did. He was humble but came down to earth for the low flying bird people who are lost, hurting, un purposeful and broken spirited.
Do remember the Holy Spirit came down to earth as a bird on Jesus baptism? Do you also remember that Noah sent a bird to check if the flood had subsided? My friends, Surely theres something special about birds.
Am sure there’s something special about you too.
May Godless You Bird-Man..LOL